A proven learning experience to help single and partnered love addicts and love avoidants HEAL from their intimacy disorders & improve their self-worth
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Falling in love with “potential” and falling hard too easily and too quickly.
Only seeing what you want to see in partners, ignoring all warning signs
Not being able to let go of someone once you’ve bonded (even when it hurts you)
Being the only one “in love” in some of your relationships
Being in relationships where you take on more than your share of the responsibility for the relationship’s survival
Sometimes pushing away the people who want to love you
Dealing with the shame and overwhelm of being in relationships that don’t treat you in the way you deserve
Just cutting the person off and going into no contact
Therapy and working with relationship “experts”
Going to 12 step meetings for codependency and/or love addiction
Trying to pray and fast it away
Asking your girlfriends to hold you accountable
Swearing off relationships and vowing to be alone
Going back to exes that do not deserve you or caught in never ending situationships
Feeling very overwhelmed by putting down boundaries with others
Struggling to let others in (or even having the desire to let others in)
Going back and forth between feeling overwhelmed in relationships at time vs wondering if you’re enough for the person within
Have an overdependence on relational partners to give you want you need and fulfill you
Are primarily attracted to unavailable people for romantic partnerships and friendships and trying to get it to work
Find themselves overly taking the blame for broken relationships
May feel self doubt & struggle with their self worth
Enjoy relationships without losing yourself
Be kind and compassionate while still maintaining boundaries
Feels connected to your self worth in your relationships
Trust that connection is possible for you even in your imperfection
Have an overdependence on relational partners to give you want you need and fulfill you
Are primarily attracted to unavailable people for romantic partnerships and friendships and trying to get it to work
Find themselves overly taking the blame for broken relationships
May feel self doubt & struggle with their self worth
Enjoy relationships without losing yourself
Be kind and compassionate while still maintaining boundaries
Feels connected to your self worth in your relationships
Trust that connection is possible for you even in your imperfection
Have an overdependence on relational partners to give you want you need and fulfill you
Are primarily attracted to unavailable people for romantic partnerships and friendships and trying to get it to work
Find themselves overly taking the blame for broken relationships
May feel self doubt & struggle with their self worth
Enjoy relationships without losing yourself
Be kind and compassionate while still maintaining boundaries
Feels connected to your self worth in your relationships
Trust that connection is possible for you even in your imperfection
Gain clarity on the blockers to healing your love addiction and unresolved childhood trauma
Rediscover family patterns that you have been unknowingly repeating in your intimate relationships and what have been making you feel not enough
Replace negative thoughts and limiting beliefs that have been keeping your stuck in your life and relationships
Exit the fight and flight patterns of your trauma that inhibit you from making changes and stop you from being happy and able to rest
Build a life based on pleasure, excitement, and nourishing you to exit feelings of lack and loss
Clear out all avoidant thoughts and actions to replace with balanced and available actions and behaviors
Start to develop open and available relationships with healthy others
Create a detailed plan for your relationship and romantic boundaries
Connect to people who do not repeat your mother and father wound trauma
Use feminine energy as a secret weapon for your healing
Develop dating plans and clarity about what you want to raise your standards and call in what you want
Practice cultivating deep and intimate friendships that support you fully
Streamline what you want from others
Perfect communication skills to ask for what you want
Determine any hidden signs of abuse in your relationships
Reflect and celebrate growth in self esteem and relationship trajectories
Build life based on your own personal values versus what others have given
Finalize leaving the lack mentality in relationships and love
Solidify your self image as a queen deserving of love and light in all your partnerships and relationships
After years of prioritizing yourself, digging into your self care and trauma patterns, and being honest with yourself that you want more…
This is absolutely possible once you learn/apply the Bloom framework to your relationship and dating life to help your relationships go from stale and stuck to flourishing.
It’s the same exact strategy that I’ve used over the past 8 years to help recovering love addicts and avoidants heal from their unresolved trauma to become available for the rich and loving relationships they want. ‘
You are able to connect with partners who are available and serious about relationships
Identify who are a time wasters and who are not serious BEFORE you catch feelings
You move closer to the love you desire versus pushing it away out of fear
You master moving in ways that prioritize you versus only the comfort or others
You feel your life with relationships that fulfill you and bring you joy versus deplete and agitate you
After being a therapist for over 15 years, being in recovery for 11 years and coaching women in healing from love addiction for 8 years, I’ve noticed there are 3 common mistakes most recovering love addicts are making that’s holding them back.
Detoxing and going into long periods of isolation to “heal” (only to reemerge and have the same types of friendship and relationship problems happen again)
Trying to figure out this self healing thing on your own (only to have more knowledge about your issues, but still hitting the same frustrating roadblocks)
Trying to wait until the “right time” to work on these issues (not understanding that these issues are an extension of how you feel and show up in the world due to unresolved trauma. If you work on these issues, the rest of your life will feel less chaotic as well)
Our 90 day course is designed to help you go from…
The Love Addiction Recovery School is an online self coaching program where you will take a deep dive into healing the trauma that has caused love addicted and love avoidant behaviors, clear you of relationships where you are overattached and codependent, make way for healthy love, and teach you how to move towards love versus away.
The Complete Curriculum includes our full step-by-step healing framework with lifetime access to all lessons, tools, and guided practices.
You can move through the content at your own pace as you unlearn old patterns and build a new, more secure way of relating to yourself and others.
Our curriculum follows our
uproot
We clear out all of the mess and negative patterns that’ve been overshadowing your past relationships.
cultivate
We ‘prepare the soil’ for your new flourishing relationships by helping you naturally tap into your availability.
sow
Get clearabout what you want and the red flags you keep missing, sis. Here, you’ll start ‘planting the seeds’ for the relationships we really want to flourish in our lives.
harvest
It’s time to reap what you’ve sown, love! You are so worthy, and in this module we focus on helping you remember that while dating in the midst of any and all triggers.
tend / deweed
After all of that powerful transformation, we have to make sure you continue to TEND to your garden to keep it flourishing the way it did at the beginning.
Every 2 weeks, you will get curriculum that will break down this process into easy steps to work through your trauma and your unhealthy relationship patterns.
THE TAPPING COURSE
Our core tool that we teach students to help them get grounded, regulated, and clear out unhealthy beliefs and thoughts. Includes scripts tailored towards our main pain points.
$297 value
THE BODYWORK COURSE
Our course in somatic bodywork to help women learn how to get in touch with their bodies and notice where they feel their emotions. Comes with audio guides to follow to practice on your own.
$297 value
Love Deprivation Rehab
In this course, you will know the basics of self care in all 10 areas of your life, the source roots of love deprivation in trauma, and what to do instead.
$297 value
Dating 101 for Love Addicts
In this this program, you will learn how to identify, date, and be open with available partners.
You will gain clarity on what you want, learn strategy to minimize your love addictie patterns, and be secure in your dating connections as a recovered love addict.
Students will get access to suggested dating plans, templates, and other tools to stay emotionally stable while dating.
$297 value
No Contact and Detox support Kit
The No Contact and Detox Kit is a 90 day program to help break trauma bonded relationships, successfully go into no contact and heal to create space for the relationships you want.
Mother Wounds Workshop Bundle
In this 6-hour workshop bundle, you’ll explore how mother wounds impact your self-worth, boundaries, and relationships—and receive practical tools to start healing with clarity, compassion, and confidence.
“Your class really kick-started my healing process. Before I signed up, I was a complete mess. I don’t even remember how I came across your platform, but thank God I did! I met my husband shortly after and we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary!”
“Working in this program has truly changed how I see myself and given me more self compassion.”
“Joining this program has truly changed my life. I’ve shown up differently in all of my relationships, especially my friendships and family. I’m truly grateful.”
"Shena, I cannot tell you how much this program has transformed how I see myself and my relationships. My body LITERALLY feels lighter. Thank you so much."
"Working in this program has completely changed my life. I feel healthier and happier. I love Black Girls Heal and all it's done for me."
Ready to break out of the pattern of unhealthy & unavailable relationships?
In less than half a year from now, everything can be completely changed for the better.
There has never been a better time to start
opening your heart towards relationships
You will ALWAYS have another excuse or “important project” which is really just procrastination in disguise.
Why wait for the “perfect time” only to find that another 6 months to a year has passed for you?
Get clear on what are real objections versus procrastination techniques… and then actually solve them.
Offer space for people who truly support you to be available for you during the rough times (instead of doing it alone)
Get over that secret fear that it may not work for you – IT WILL! You just have to show up.
The honest answer is, it depends on you and your current situation. Most of our students are able to see real change in their relationships and availability within the first 30-60 days.
For others, it might take a few extra months to gather the courage to put into consistent practice everything they are learning.
That’s why we’ve made the program 6 months for women to have enough time to implement, troubleshoot, and build maintenance behaviors around what they are learning.
To provide accountability, the 6 month timeline means that you also only have access to the curriculum and coaching during those 6 months. We’ve found that lifetime access, though intended to be supportive to women, actually enables procrastination and not taking action due to fear.
We recommend you set aside 1-2 hours per module to do the assignments. You get to choose if you break that time up weekly, monthly, or otherwise. Whatever helps feel the most successful!
What it would feel like to FINALLY LET GO of previous toxic partnerships and finally be open, available, and engaging with healthy partners who want you back.
Being able to BALANCE being attached and loving towards others without losing yourself.
You can date KNOWING YOUR WORTH while remaining inviting and not pushing others away.
Your habits of overthinking, overanalyzing, and overprotecting are no longer needed as you are able to balance boundaries while RECEIVING LOVE from healthy partners and others.
Pay in Full Bonus:
6 Hour Mother Wounds Workshop Intensive
The Complete Recovery School Curriculum to comprehensively heal from love addiction
Designed for women recovering from love addiction and love avoidance
Includes in-depth lessons and practical tools
Supports emotional healing and healthy relationship building
Focuses on long-term personal transformation
Accessible anytime, allowing you to go at your own pace!
The reason why you’re here is because you know there are walls you have not been able to scour on your own and there are habits that are reflexive when it comes to your relationships.
You over attach or under attach without being able to realize where the problem is until it’s too late, and you wish you could go back for a do-over.
What if you came into relationships crystal clear with what works for you and what does not?
you’ve got two choices here…
You have a choice to stay where you are, keep trying to do it yourself (like you’ve been doing with a little help from therapy as well for your trauma healing)…
OR you can enroll in a program that is meant to help you navigate the way out, step by step, and get proven tools that will help you improve your friendships and dating relationships.
I totally get it. Love addiction and love avoidance can provide a lot of complicated and nuanced problems.
However, as a trained therapist and recovered love addict, I’ve seen how transformational it is to give women the right solutions to watch them change their lives.
I've learned if you give women the right tools and the blueprint, they will make it happen. And I lay out my full method within the program.
Hey, love! EVERYONE is busy. But the problem with avoidants is that they do not know how to balance the things they enjoy (activities, work, hobbies) with the things they also want (i.e. relationships and connection) so they fear that you have to pick one or the other. NOT TRUE! You can have both. You just have to find balance.
Our program teaches you how to balance the two so you do not feel as if you are missing our or your personal time being encroached upon.
Hey, Mama’s need love too! Your kids are actually watching how you navigate your relationships (friendships and romantic). Does Mom neglect herself? Is she always home alone? Is she always dating these bummy guys and calling them her friend only to fight with them every other week?
Your kids know. PLUS, your kids WANT you to be happy. Your best choice is to build a life based on boundaries, joy, and connection with not only yourself and your kids, but other outside relationships as well. Model healthy love for your kids so that they can create the same relationships as they grow older.
I get it. You’ve been trying to esteem yourself for so long and hitting walls. It feels impossible that it could be any different – but that’s because you’ve been trapped within your own understanding and perspective.
Here’s the truth: you’re amazing. You’ve ALWAYS been amazing. But things aren’t working out because you don’t believe it yet. And trying to cram affirmations in doesn’t always work. We are going to uncover those root issues that have been getting in the way and CLEAR THEM OUT so that you can finally be free to move into that elevated, high vibe version of yourself.
You will keep lifetime access to the curriculum and updates to revisit as needed as you grow with each of your relationships.
Because of the nature of the program, no refunds will be processed at any time for any reason.
All payment plan options must be completed in full.
As soon as your register, you will get access to the curriculum!
See the current enrollment any payment plan options available above.
No, coaching is a self help and educational service that is not reimbursable by insurance. Also, no coaches under this program operate or function as a therapist are not eligible for insurance reimbursement as well.
Led by a formally trained therapist. this coaching program, though there is a heavy emphasis on dating, is focused on helping you heal from the impact of unresolved trauma in your relationships by learning and unlearning healthy relationship patterns.
You will learn how to balance and build boundaries not only in romantic partnerships, but also your friendships, family relationships, and drastically improve your self esteem. The Recovery School seeks to help you stay available in ALL aspects of your life, not just some as they are all interconnected.
Though no group coaching calls are included as part of the curriculum, the Recovery School Complete Curriculum includes in-depth instruction and tools to help you navigate the most common roadblocks and emotional hurdles that love addicts and love avoidants experience.
Inside the program, you’ll be guided through the curriculum in a way that supports real, lasting change—on your schedule, in your way.
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