The Importance of Pacing Your Relationship

As I explore the nuances of personal growth, relationships, and self-love, there are countless lessons that can guide us towards a more fulfilling life. Today, we'll dive into some essential themes: embracing the unknown, differentiating between healthy love and love addiction, and the paramount importance of pacing in our relationships. Let's dive right in.

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Shena Lashey
Hard Lessons Learned After 10 Years in Love Addiction Recovery

I’m excited to share with you some of the hard-earned lessons I’ve gathered from a decade of love addiction recovery. This journey has been anything but easy, but it has profoundly shaped who I am today. Many of you have been alongside me, either as clients or listeners, watching my transformation as I moved towards healthier relationships and better self-love. This blog is a condensed version of my recent podcast episode, yet its depth and importance remain uncompromised.

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Shena Lashey
The 4 Steps of No Contact

In this blog post, I'll share the key steps to making no contact work for you. We'll explore what no-contact actually is (most people got it all wrong and that’s why it doesn’t work for them), reasons why I encourage you to start your 90-day break, the four steps to no-contact, and what it looks like to cut off all contact.

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Shena Lashey
The Sit on Your Hands Challenge

If you've ever found yourself stuck in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, this is for you. Inspired by a previous challenge I shared, called the Don’t Text Them: Sit on Your Hands Challenge, this post aims to guide you on a journey of emotional independence and self-love. Read below to discover how this challenge can be a transformative step in your healing journey.

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Shena Lashey
Surrender and Letting Go (Just Let Them Be)

It's easy to get wrapped up in trying to control everything and everyone around us. I've often found myself trapped in this endless cycle of micro-managing and worrying. But recently, I came across a beautiful piece by Cassie Phillips titled "Just Let Them," which has profoundly shifted my perspective. This poem serves as a gentle reminder that sometimes, the best thing we can do is simply let others be.

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Shena Lashey
How to Feel Deserving

For many of us, believing we deserve the love and happiness we seek can be a significant hurdle. We often declare to others that we know our worth, but deep down, conflicting feelings can choke out our growth.

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Shena Lashey