Phase 3 – The Surrendered Woman

For the Surrendered Woman, self-intimacy looks like clearing all ties and actions that no longer serve her and feeling the emotions that follow. Her intimacy with others looks like pruning toxic ties and cautiously testing new connections. She is actively letting go of toxic people and behaviors, even when it feels painful. She’s learning to trust her intuition and set boundaries. 

This stage is about release. The Surrendered Woman lets go of unhealthy people and patterns, even when it hurts. She may feel grief, loneliness, or heaviness as she cleanses, but beneath the pain lies hope. Her boundaries are stronger, and her voice is clearer. Though she sometimes doubts herself, she is closer than ever to building healthy, lasting connections.

Overview
 This is the bittersweet stage. She is letting go of toxic patterns, people, and habits, which brings grief alongside relief. It feels like a cleansing process: necessary but uncomfortable. She may be practicing no-contact, redefining friendships, restructuring family relationships, and facing long-buried pain. Though heavy, these steps are planting the seeds for her next chapter.

Strengths (Hidden Opportunities)

  • Her willingness to let go shows courage.

  • She is discovering that her needs are important.

  • She is learning from every boundary she sets.

Growth Areas

  • Continuing to grieve losses without rushing the process.

  • Learning to trust her intuition in relationships.

  • Developing emotional regulation tools for when old pain resurfaces.

  • Practicing discernment between givers and takers.

Goal & Gift

  • The goal for this phase is: To reconnect to and trust her gut and intuition.

  • The gift of this phase is: Clarity (about people and what no longer serves her)

Next Steps
 The BGH Method supports her in deepening boundaries, working through grief with structure, and cultivating the clarity needed to thrive in healthier connections.

You’ve just discovered where you are in your intimacy journey,
and that’s a powerful first step.


Every phase comes with its own challenges—but also the opportunity to grow and heal.

If you’re ready to move forward, the best next step is to join the BGH Method Waitlist.

The BGH Method is a 12-week self-paced program designed to help you:

  • Break the cycles of love addiction and love avoidance

  • Build healthier relationship patterns

  • Gain confidence and clarity in love and intimacy

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